Care as a main driver in life…
I’m flying to Los Angeles from New York to host a workshop – Your Energy Is Key. A certifying education in Energistic Visionary Leadership™ for professionals and private individuals wishing to implement this life changing mindset in their own lives and businesses. What I love about this program is that I get 2 days to care for the participants and guide them how to apply the Energistic Mindset in everything that they do – last time I hosted this workshop was in Melbourne, Australia in May, Everybody agreeing that the beauty of the awareness of energy is that there is no way back once we have become aware of how energy truly works and can be applied in a most caring matter in all areas of life and performance. Our lives will truly be changed.
Once we realize our own responsibility and co-creation in what happens around us, how the imprints of energy from experiences in our past prevents us from living our ultimate life and optimum performance, how blockages in our surroundings, relations, perspectives, strategies, leadership and choices that prevents everything we dream of coming true and to assess if our dreams, visions and ideals are what we want. Essentially, it all comes down to caring enough for one self and the world we live in to make the right choices and act upon them accordingly. Most times we all need a push, all need a new level of awareness to move on, new energy and new ways to handle our challenges and live our lives to the fullest creating the results, excellence and happiness we desire.
The past week I have had many of my Executive Advice Sessions over skype with clients from around the world, but also calls with friends and family. Most calls this past week has been around having to stand strong in own energy in conflicts either at work or in their private lives. Again, it most calls it all came down to care – caring enough to be in a conflict, start a conflict or be in a conflict… On my last visit in Los Angeles on my “Treasure – Change the World Tour” I met with Gnell Abracosa, hotel director for the successful boutique hotels; Mosaic Hotel and Hotel 140 in Beverly Hills, LA. In the middle of our conversation about service and team work she takes a deep breath and share her take on conflicts: “I always remind my staff that conflicts arise because people care, we just have to figure out what the other person truly cares about and respect it”.
I loved that perspective as it is so true. Look at wars, look at political conflicts, look at the political games in the corporate and organizational organizations but also in our homes and in our friendships – all fighting or acting for what they care for. If too much distance of values, choice of destination, distance because of lack of trust either because of past experiences between the parties or from individual experiences in the past, stress making people unable to relate to each other but only act from within own experiences or stress of the society creating constraints instead of opportunities when pressured because of economy or old traditions not willing to see new ways. Essentially, we all react, act or don’t act because we care.
When I spoke in Greenwich – Riverside north of New York City this Monday everyone agreed that energy is universal and that whatever conflict is created and resolved in comes down to caring – only the context and people’s backgrounds are different.
What we care about is different for each person and most of the time we react due to energy imprints in our energy – subconscious memories from the past. Therefore, conflict is such a vulnerable place to meet as there are many factors to take into consideration of not managing the underlying energies right and caring for both self and the others. When I act as a mediator in conflict resolution, negotiations etc on all levels, I always take both culture (personal, organizational, and national) and feelings into considerations other than the actual challenge at hand. I see the energetic blockages that prevent the most optimum outcome and am able to provide insight to action and new synergies – energy is a strong tool to not only solve conflict but also if managed without care to create conflicts. Many of my executives are clueless to begin with about the energy they transmit subconsciously and the conflict they create. Once they become aware of the responsibility but also the immense capacity to drive healthy and positive change – I am amazed by the results they create in their own lives and for that of their companies. Remember, energy does not know distance and a thought can impact your team or your clients no matter where you are.
Yes, there are many ways of caring and experience conflict – sometimes it is because we care about the people we work with, are friends with, live with and other times we have locked ourselves in a certain pattern of thinking that makes it seem impossible to come up with a solution. And luckily sometimes conflict arises because we finally care about ourselves enough to assert ourselves to improve our situation – whether that means to either to find common ground or being ready to break free and move on and find new ways.
New ways always gets us out of comfort zone, makes us feel life – Susanne Møllegård, a successful executive from Denmark who has chosen to add care, insight and awareness into her journey, reminded me the other day that Osho (a progressive Indian guru) always encourages us to go towards what scares us the most. The comfort zone makes us lazy, makes us live a life of robots, makes us believe that the norms set by society and most times by our selves – is our future.
Let us all start to sense what is our individual truth and start to act upon what we truly care about and wish for in life. We actually can change our lives for the better, change the lives of those around us, provide a different perspective and thereby create a ripple effect for positive change and impact in the world we live in. If we care and we make an effort to also care for those with influenced by our choices we co-exist whether we talk about national, organizational or personal change, there is always a way that makes life better for all parties. We might not be able to see it while first out of comfort zone because that is where most people are afraid. To beat fear a first step is always to take a deep breath, which will help us take the next step and the next … First, when we let go of fear, let go of what prevents us moving forward we are ready to create something new and improved, or even radically different to anything we ever dared to dream of. That is how we as grow, as society, as organizations and individual and move forward in great leaps – lets allow ourselves to let go of fear for the unknown and create healthy change and quantum leaps forward.
I promise you I have taken some deep breaths the past months – letting go of my home to travel to spread the message that we can change the world, trusting that enough people along the way will feel an impact from my speeches, meetings, our conversations that they make a conscious choice to care, to make an impact, trust that enough people and companies wish to support my trip through sponsorships and donations, to trust I will be taken care of and that I will have a secure final destination of my tour. Almost every day my tour changes and proves to be different to how I thought it would be, almost everyday something new happens that makes a positive impact on me, my plans, my perspectives. Every day, I take a deep breath, creating positive change, allowing myself to be guided 100% intuitively, opening my heart through meeting so many amazing people on my way – because this is my path, that is my purpose right now.
Breathing, meditating, trusting that acting in a mix of care for both ourselves and the world will lead us exactly to where we are supposed to be. Until now I have only been positively surprised by each new day. So I am with you all in the stepping out of comfort zone, I am with you all and have been ‘scared’ for various reasons along the way but I am also living everything that I am, living my purpose, daring to care, caring for myself and the world around me.
I hope you are choosing to do the same – choosing to live the life you are meant to live.
Best of energies,
Christel Rosenkilde Christensen